SELF CONFIDENCE
The
most dangerous thing I have experienced and seen in this world is losing
confidence when you have talent. I think everyone in this world is good at
something. But not everyone is successful in this world. Because this is a
world where there are many people who admit to themselves that they are not
successful. Why are they not successful? The number one reason for that is
because they lack self-confidence. The only way to develop self-confidence in
this world is to put aside the fear of failure, embarrassment and shame and
take risks. Because if what you do is right, you will know that you can do more
than you think. If you make a mistake, you will know that you can handle more
than you think. So no matter what happens here, it's good for you in the end.
The CEO of CPA AUSTRALIA, which has about 150,000 employees, says, I have seen
many people stay in the same position for a very long time. Because those
people had a habit of losing self-confidence. What is that? Thinking that they
can't do more than this. But if anyone succeeds in his career, he is the only
one. It is only the risk taker that their profession demands. But most of the
time we don't do this. So if we don't achieve goals, it means we don't learn.
If we don't learn, it means we stop growing and developing. So how do we build
good self-confidence? Let's see how to do it.
Number
1- Maintain good posture: Ohio State University research has revealed that
standing up straight with a good posture is not only good for our physical
health but it also gives good self-confidence to our thoughts. In this study,
those who kept their bodies straight in this way were very confident about
their qualifications to get a job. But otherwise, those who showed poor body
language did not even have confidence in their best qualifications.
So
try to maintain a nice body language like someone with a good personality. Do
not turn your head to the
ground and act as if you are afraid. Stand up
straight and keep a good smile on your face. Why do the number one
psychologists in the world say this? As we change our physical posture, the
process changes our mental and emotional state. Not only that, as Professor Amy
Cuddy of Harvard University has discovered, when we change our body to a strong
and masculine posture, enough testosterone is released from our body to
increase our courage. It is a reason for us to build good self-confidence. So
she says your body language defines who you are.
Number
2- Develop an egalitarian mindset: People with low self-confidence always think
that others deserve better opportunities to achieve better things in life than
they do. Stop looking at it from this angle and get used to thinking of
yourself as an equal to others. This is a bit challenging because we always
compare ourselves with the best person we see in our field. Compare your look
with one of the best models on Instagram. The clothing of a person who has
attracted the attention of people adjusts itself with his choices. But remember
that most of the time it is an exaggeration of someone's lifestyle, whether it is
advertising or showing a situation that is better than what they are for their
job. So don't be afraid of their presentation and go back. Imagine that you are
the same as them. Remember that you too have your own beauty. If you forget,
write it down. Then you will instantly feel a boost in your self-confidence.
You don't have to be like someone else. Marilyn Monroe, a very talented and popular actress,
once said that trying to be someone else is wasting who you are. So don't
commit such a crime.
No.
3- Stop trying to prove yourself to others: It's impossible to prove who you
are to everyone you've ever met. It's a very complicated thing. why is that?
This was explained very nicely on a facebook page. You are different people for
different people. To one person you are a nuisance, to another person a genius,
to another person a silent character, to another person a stranger, to your
friend you are the best person, to your enemy you are the worst person, to
another person you are just another human being, to some people you are smart
and to everyone else you are unknown. It is more important to try to show
yourself who you are than trying to show others who you are through your
behavior. You don't need to prove yourself to others. You have to prove
yourself to yourself. You accept yourself. You love yourself. Goku makes you
feel confident.
Number 4- Now try the things that used to make you uncomfortable: Getting out of your comfort zone is very important to build self-confidence. According to Charlee Hooper, who wrote the book charisma on command, self-confidence means that most people try to gain a wide range of experiences in ways that are not comfortable. So if you expand your comfort zone day by day, that means if you step out of the comfort zone a little bit, you can make a bigger comfort zone than you have. If you show me more space to hit then you can. Then it is not that difficult for you to go out from there. Take a small step every day.
Famous author Barrie Davenport, who wrote Confidence Hacks, says that low self-confidence is not a lifelong punishment. Self-confidence can be learned. Can be developed. You can master it just like any other skill, the day you master it, everything in your life will turn for the better.
Number
5- Visualize good things. And think about your achievements: what is said to
reflect these achievements? It's very easy. There are achievements in life so
far. No matter how small they are, remember them again and again and enjoy that
happy feeling. List the best things you have acquired. Maybe you speak several
languages. You may be reminded of the day you graduated, or climbing a
mountain. These don't have to be the biggest things. Maybe you have helped
someone. Keep this list written down. Look at this every day. Then spend a few
minutes thinking about those memories again. Enjoy it. Allow these experiences
to remind yourself of who you really are.
As motivational writer Dennis Beckley says. He says that if we want to build real self-strength, we must focus on our successful days. Stop worrying about defeats. Joe Namath is a former American football player. He says that when you have self-confidence, you can have a lot of fun. When you have that kind of fun, you can do more amazing things. Here you will think that strong belief is something like magic.
Jessica Alba American actress and businesswoman says, My
theory about self-confidence is very simple. She says that if you look
confident you can do anything even if you have no idea what you are doing. Here
you will think that self-confidence is something that we can cultivate.
Roger
Staubach is a famous football player and businessman. He says, self-confidence
is not something that comes from nowhere, it is a result of something. It is
the result of hours, days, weeks, months and years of continuous work and
dedication. Here you will think that self-confidence is something that comes
from training and discipline. I'm telling you that self-confidence is a
combination of all these things. If you don't have a goal, it's from finding
what you love and what you want. Your motivation will push you but your
self-confidence will take you there.
So to win, you can't just have motivation, you have to have self-confidence. Today's most successful people in the world have both. If possible, show me someone who is very successful today but has no self-confidence. There are no such people. Because real success comes to those who have self-confidence. Because success cannot escape them. They chase success and catch it. In addition to all that, you need to do this little reminder. Listen a little to what the wise adults have to say. You can learn things that took 50 to 60 years for them to understand and then learn in two days. Then you will learn that successful people have had places where they lost their false self-beliefs that they were afraid of. And remember, self-confidence is not with you 24 hours a day. There is more or less tension in certain cases. It's the same. Belgian Diane Von Furstenberg is a world famous fashion designer with a net worth of more than one billion US dollars.
She was the one who first introduced the wrap dress for women to the world. If you are interested in fashion, she created the BRAND called DVF. In Priyanka Chopra's If I Couldn't Tell You Just One Thing program, Priyanka Chopra asks her what fulfillment looks like to her. She also gives a surprising answer. Success is not always felt. Even today, there are times when I wake up in the morning feeling like a total loser even when I'm at the top of the game. But life is like that. Life is not always about going from the best things to the best things. Life goes up and down. Sometimes people think you are the most successful person in the world. But you know it's not like that.
So
she says that if we fall, our only solution is to get up. She tells this story
when she is 72 years old. So whether we like it or not, bad days are coming. We
have to go through those days with hope. So be confident. Believe in yourself
because until then no one else will. Remember, self-confidence does not come
when you have all the answers, it comes when you are ready to face every
problem. So you start learning the language, apply for your favorite job, start
your favorite business, if there is someone you like, tell them you love them,
try your favorite new style, do whatever good you like. Have confidence to do
all this.
Good Luck..!
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