EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Are
you smart? But I am not talking about comparative intelligence. Can you deal
intelligently with your emotions and with the emotions of others? If you have
emotional intelligence or if you can develop it, happiness, comfort and
progress are not magic. American psychologist and writer Marshall Rosenberg
says here is a story. That we are very dangerous when we are not aware of the
responsibility we should have for the way we behave, the way we think and the
way we feel. So simply we are going to talk about feelings. Emotional
intelligence is the most valuable thing that a person can develop in this
beautiful world that affects our success, whether it is work, love or whatever
we are going to do. Obviously, people who have developed this emotional
intelligence are the ones who really enjoy life.
There
is a reason we are telling you about this. This is a characteristic of those
who succeed in this world and then maintain that success in a stable state and
live very humbly and happily. The special thing is that even if this luxurious
life that the world calls this success is separated from them, they can still
look at life happily, calmly and very positively. If you have ever wondered how
some people are still smiling no matter what problems they face, if you have
ever wondered how some people could live so easily, then you must have thought
about emotionally intelligent people. So if you want to find this great
development, you need to make a big deal with your heart from today. Because
the most important part of real development is the development of the mind.
According
to the website Mindtools.com, these are the traits that people with strong
emotional intelligence have.
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1- Knowing You, Yourself: People with the highest level of emotional
intelligence in the world are incredibly aware of their own feelings. They are
amazingly aware of their feelings. Because they are people who learn from their
mistakes. As soon as they feel a negative emotion due to some of their
behavior, they see if there is something wrong here. So, because of that
quality that they had from childhood, they develop in a very healthy way.
Because of this, they do not let their emotions control them and especially
because of that deep understanding, they have an amazing ability to make decisions
based on what they feel and their strong intuition. Those decisions are often
correct. They look at themselves very honestly. The special thing is that they
know their weaknesses and strengths. That's why they devote time to weak things
and master them. So if you want to be an emotional intellectual, the number one
thing is to pay attention to yourself.
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2- Self-regulation: Self-regulation means that they can control their emotions
and impulses. The most important thing is not to get angry unnecessarily and
not to be jealous. That's why they hardly make impulsive and careless
decisions. They think before taking action. Very thoughtful and not afraid to
change. They can also say no to something they don't like that they don't feel
comfortable with.
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3- Motivation: One of the main characteristics of these people is that they are
always optimistic and positive. And ready to work for long-term success. They
are very effective. Loves challenges. And they do what they do beautifully. And
no matter how many obstacles come their way, they know how to successfully face
them. They know what their goal is. So no matter how many obstacles come their
way, they don't want to back down. And just like us, these people are subjected
to various rejections. But they are not afraid of rejection. They turn those
rejections into blessings.
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4- Empathy: This is the most important thing you must have with you to be an
emotional intelligence. If you can get a good idea about the needs of the
people around you, about their opinions, what their angle of thinking can be,
you have this characteristic. These people can express their feelings
beautifully with any profession they do. They create the passion related to
their profession very beautifully. Because of this quality, they are not going
to judge others at once. That's why they live a very open and honest life.
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5- Social skills: These energetic and intelligent people have good social
skills or the ability to deal with people. So people feel that it is very easy
to talk to them and exchange ideas with them. And they help others to improve
as well. Communicates beautifully. So, even if the comparative intelligence
helps you to succeed, even if it brings you success to some extent, this
emotional intelligence helps you to connect with others to grow your career.
That's why most of the organizations in the new world give priority to these
emotionally intelligent people when hiring new employees.
So
how do you become like that? Simply put, how do you become a truly advanced
person? How can you become a character who can control emotions that are
difficult to bear such as anger and jealousy? For that, these key points are
very important for you. The best news is that you can learn it. But for some
time you have to pay attention to your every action, your every feeling, your
every thought. Let's see what these key issues are.
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1- Pay attention to the way you react to people: Do you judge people without
knowing the facts about certain cases? Do you have any traits that you know you
don't like? The best way to identify such qualities is the feeling you feel
after a certain action. If it's a good one, no problem, if it's a bad one,
there's definitely a problem there. Pay close attention to the way you think
and the way you behave. Put yourself in other people's shoes. Think from the
other person's point of view. At the same time, when they are more open, give
value to the ideas they try to say from their angle and look at them with a
mediating mind.
Realize
that their needs are important too. Have you heard the "salt story".
There is a poor woman. Because of their household needs, many days they ask a
rich woman for one thing or another for home use. One day that rich housewife
asked this poor housewife for some salt. The rich woman's son, who was watching
this, asks, why does the mother ask for salt from this poor woman even though
there is salt in the house? The woman then answers. Son, I said that I did that
so that it would not be difficult for him to ask us for help. So think about
it...
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2- Give opportunity to others: This does not mean to reduce your quality for
others. Look at your work environment. Maybe you are the brightest person in
your work environment. Maybe you are always waiting for your talents to be appreciated.
You feel happy when someone appreciates you and others also like that feeling.
Be happy when you see someone else shine. Think like him. How happy is he? It
makes you feel great. At the same time, don't always expect the appreciation of
others for your skills and try to enjoy it by yourself. That's another one.
With that energy, you will be able to treat others very kindly. If you feel
like your energy is waning when other people lose their attention, then there
is a problem. Start treating it and find the cause. Improve your attitude
towards yourself. Strengthen the foundation so that you can stand on your
feelings without fear.
No.
3- Do a self-assessment: Can you find out what your weaknesses are? Can you
accept that you are not perfect and no one in this world is perfect? Can you
make up your mind to work on your flaws now? Because being perfect and becoming
the best version of yourself are two completely different things. Making
mistakes is better than faking perfections. Can you honestly look at yourself?
Can you make your flaws very humble? It can change your life.
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4- Look at how you react to times of stress: Do you tend to fret unnecessarily
whenever things don't go your way? The truth is we want things to happen the
way we want. But it doesn't happen all the time. It is very practical. But do
you blame other people? Do you get angry with them? Sometimes it's not their
fault. Think about it. It is very important not to panic at a time like this.
Nothing strange will happen because he was upset. Your energy will only be
spent. Improve your ability to control your emotions in times of emergency,
both in business and in life. If someone asked me who is the most powerful
person in the world, what would my answer be? The most powerful person in this
world is the calmest person in this world. One who is calmed by understanding.
Even if it is the worst thing that can happen to someone, they are very
conscious at the time of the incident. It is very attractive. In short, you can
tell a lot about a person's personality by looking at how someone behaves when
there is a problem.
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05- You need to take responsibility for your actions: If you hurt someone's
feelings, you need to apologize directly as soon as possible. Don't try to
ignore what you did or the person. If you make a sincere effort to correct any
wrong done by your hand, people will be ready to forgive you and forget what
happened. That is what the world-famous American entrepreneur Brian Koslow says
that the more you take responsibility for your actions, the more credibility
you get.
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6- Try to understand how your actions affect the other person: You need to do
this by thinking as the other person before you take an action. Develop
empathy. How would they feel if you did this? Would you like to have a similar
experience? Simply put, after you make a huge decision, are you ready to help
others for the impact it will have on them? Do you know why I say this, there
is something that we sometimes think wrongly, we think that the world is created
around us. Either below us. That only what we want is important. But we need to
remind ourselves that we are only a small part of this. Emotional Intelligence
These two words help us to have a clear mind. So, progressing when the mind is
dirty is a bit of a difficult journey. It is beautiful when the mind is clear.
So if you think you are smart, work carefully and happily.
Good Luck..!
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